Brides, pass this article along to your maid of honor because it’s got all the fixins to guide her through planning a killer wedding shower.
Maids, if we can throw out a few key words here before we really get going just to set you up with the right frame of mind: Personalization. Small details. Consideration. The place to start is by thinking about what the bride’s personality is like, what types of activities is she into, what are her favorite food and drinks. The memorable things are going to be in the small details, like her favorite flowers sitting in a bouquet at the head of the table for her, or pitchers of mimosas (her favorite cocktail) gracing the tables.
It’s not a bad idea to check in with the bride about her expectations and preferences. While you want to leave many elements of the shower a surprise, it’s still polite to get some insight into what she’s thinking and feeling for the party. There might be some foods she’s vehemently against serving, or she might insist on no wedding shower games played. Check in and pay close attention to what she’s saying; after all, the shower is all about her!
Figuring out the theme should be based of course on the bride’s personality, hobbies and likes. If she’s a foodie, a shower at an elegant brunch restaurant would be very appropriate. If she’s a homebody, a shower in a cozy living room might suit her better. If she’s outdoorsy, an stylish picnic in the park would be cute. Based on the location, you can start planning the décor.
We’ve heard that there is a big trend in handmade and personalized items at parties these days. This is great news because there are a lot of items and “how to’s” on the market for DIY ideas. Think about pennant banners, custom invitations, and water bottle labels. You might need to start a bit earlier if you’ll be creating a lot of the décor yourself, but don’t be afraid to ask the rest of the maids or the bride’s family for help! Get an assembly line going and you’ll crank out those triangle banners, mason jars filled with sand and a tea light, or personalized invitations.
For those brides who recently had someone close to them pass away, it would be a special touch to add something to the shower to honor or commemorate that loved one. Tears will be flowing!
Then there are the details, like menu, drinks, and party favors. With the menu, it’s all about what the bride would like, of course while still bearing in mind the theme of the day. If it’s not going to be a sit-down meal, select foods that are easy to take small bites of while chatting, and foods that are potentially good as “finger foods” if guests are going to be standing up and mingling. The amount of guests might be the deciding factor of whether it will be a sit down meal or not. Keep in mind the formality of the party when selecting foods and make choices that will complement and enhance the theme. If you are going to do favors, make them really personal. Since there will be a lot less people at the shower than at the wedding, it’s a chance to really make the favors unique, individual, and personal in a way that you might not be able to when fashioning them for several hundred more people. Edible favors are always a hit, whether it’s cake pops, homemade candy or fudge, or bags of popcorn that you’ve popped and seasoned at home.
As long as you keep in mind what the bride likes in terms of theme, food, activities, and favors you can’t go wrong. Enlist her mother, best friends, sister/s, and other people she’s close with to bounce around ideas!