Hard Time Choosing Attendants
By Glenna Tooman
QUESTION
My sister is getting married and having a hard time choosing
attendents since she has 9 girls (most of which are out-of-towners) she would
like to ask and her fiance only has 2 men (again out-of-towners; he just moved
to our state) that he feels comfortable asking. Is there anything she could
do besides having the extra girls be gift carriers, readers, guest book attendants
ect, to have them in the actual bridal party. Is it tacky to have 2 girls walk
up the aisle and not have a groomsman to accompany them or could 1 groomsman
accompany 2 girls? Help?
ADVICE
What a nice problem to have. Your sister is fortunate to have so many good friends.
I am assuming that this will be a large wedding. You don't want to overwhelm
a small group of guests by having a huge wedding party. If it is a large wedding,
the bride and groom are free to create their own unique wedding event, including
having differing numbers of attendants. However, 9 ladies and only 2 men would
be extremely lop-sided. I would suggest that no more than 4 of the ladies be
maid of honor and bridesmaids. They can each walk in by herself; then, at the
end, the best man will escort the maid of honor out, the groomsman will escort
one, and the remaining two can walk together or singly. If, perhaps, any of
girls are in their early teens, they could serve as junior bridesmaids. They
can then walk out together at the end.
Perhaps those who live closest to the bride and are able to be most involved
in helping with the wedding details could be asked to serve as maid of honor
and bridesmaids. Then, those who have to travel farther and can be less involved
can have other positions. If the wedding is being held indoors and candles will
be used, 2 ladies could be candle lighters. If any of them have a good voice
or play an instrument, they might sing or play during the ceremony or at the
reception. Others might be readers, guest book attendant, gift bearers, or hand
out programs, etc.
The groom might increase the number of men in the wedding party by asking the
bride's brother or brothers (if she has any) to be groomsmen. He may also ask
his father to be his best man and then ask his two friends to be groomsmen.
If he has cousins or other male relatives, he might also ask them to participate.
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Glenna Tooman is the President of Memory Makers Event Planning, located in Boise, ID.
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