When Christians who have been baptized within a Christian denomination go to another denomination, they are usually not re-baptized. If there is only ONE baptism, only ONE Body of Christ, then there is only ONE Church. All Christians are members of this same, one Church, whether they be Baptists, Presbyterians, Episcopalians, Methodists, Lutherans, Catholics, Mormons, Adventists or any others. Our "structures" may be different, but that which we hold as most sacred and important is the same. Other things are of minor importance. Who the leader is, what clothes the presider wears, what comes first in a ceremony ... all this is more like housekeeping than of crucial importance. Throughout history, "our side" has always been right (whatever "our side" has been), and "your side" has been wrong (and usually ascribed as going to hell). Isn't it more likely that we each have a little "right" and a little "wrong." But how we all become more loving people is what it is all about!

If the hierarchies of various churches cannot get together and say, "the split is over," then perhaps the rest of us should say that.

Rev Jim Burch is the Managing Director of weddingceremony.org