Planning a same-sex marriage is really not much different than planning a traditional wedding. Same sex weddings are typically non-traditional in format anyway so it’s really up to the couple’s likes and dislikes. Below we break down how to plan for a same-sex wedding.

1. Get on the same page

This is a great idea for any wedding; gay or straight. Now that you’re engaged you should set aside some time and discuss you and your partner’s thoughts on what the special day should be like. Better yet, make it a romantic night out and discuss the wedding over dinner and a glass of wine.

2. Set a Budget

The average wedding in the United States costs $30,000. That’s a yearly salary for some people. Money, or lack thereof, will dictate your decisions. This can also help in setting the date in case you and your partner need time to save up. You’ll have to sit down and evaluate your financial status and see if you want parents or other relatives to chip in and help.

3. Build the Guest List

First make a list of everyone you want to invite regardless of their location and your budget. Then once you’ve got everyone written down from both sides begin to reduce the guest list based upon who you think will actually come and what you can afford. This will help you and your partner to get an approximate number so you can move forward and book a venue for the ceremony and reception.

4. Secure Location for Ceremony and Reception

It’s best to announce the date of your wedding after you’ve secured your location. Be prepared to have to wait too. Many popular wedding locations are booked out nine to twelve months in advance.

5. Secure Wedding Official and Wedding Party

If you have someone in mind that you want to do your wedding then you’ll want to acquire their services as soon as possible. If you’re going to have bridal parties you’ll want to check on their availability. Many wedding dates have had to move because members of the bridal party were not available.

6. Don’t Skimp on Photography

There are many ways to save money on your wedding but cheaping out on photography can come back to haunt you. Your wedding photos are going to be with you forever and capture the day like nothing else. If the photos come back looking terrible you’re stuck. Look for other ways to save money like less expensive flowers or cheaper food at the reception.

7. Gay-Friendly Vendors

Search the internet for gay-friendly vendors who have products and services tailor made for gay weddings. It’s also a great idea to find gay wedding forums where you can get recommendations from other couples who have been down the road before.

8. Infuse Your Personality

This ceremony is in celebration of you and your partner and should reflect that. Ultimately you’re doing it for yourselves and not others so do what you want even if it’s a little outside the box.

9. Revisit Budget

Take a look at your budget again and see where you are. If you have extra money you can spend it on wedding stuff or save it for the honeymoon.

10. Take a Week Off

If you’ve planned in advance you should take some time off and relax with friends, family and your soon to be spouse. Planning up until the last minute is stressful for everyone involved especially for you and your partner.