In today’s modern times, the chivalric white horse and valiant knight riding in among a moonlit sky may not be how the proposal happens.  A girl can dream, but is this reality?  Times have changed.  There are more women asking men to marry them then one might think.  Life isn’t always one big happy fairy tale, so when you have found Mr. Right, take charge!

Here are some helpful ways to turn the tables and ask him to marry you:

• Rid the old fashioned thinking

This isn’t the 1950s Leave it to Beaver era, today’s modern woman knows what they want and how to get it.  When you have found your Mr. Right and are certain he feels the same way about you, why wait?  Take the plunge by asking him to marry you.

Today’s man seems to prefer a woman who knows how to take charge and what better way to express it then by taking charge of the nuptials.  Conventional thinking disbars a woman from taking charge and igniting her inner confidence but rather believes that only the man has the ability to make the decision.  Women today are gravitating toward the new era where women can choose when and what they want.

• Make a list

In preparation of popping the question, making a list of the reasons why you want to marry him should be made.  Check your heart and make sure there are good reasons to marry the man of your dreams.  If there are reasons that include revenge, manipulation or control, then this may not be the time for a proposal but more of a time for counseling.

• Anticipate the reaction

If your significant other would freak out at the idea of non-tradition and would not accept the proposal from you, then you probably shouldn’t do it.  Some men feel it is there duty to propose and if the tables are turned may get hurt or feel dishonored.  Known his personality and know it well before taking the plunge.

If you are aware that he has been experiencing doubts about marriage, you would also be wise to hold off.  If he is the man of your dreams, he will be worth the wait.

• Choose the location

The perfect location is very important when popping the question.  Traditionally the man finds the most romantic spot or memorable place on the planet, but the woman can change it up a bit.  The place should be a location that he loves or one with significance attached.

Sporting venues offer excitement and anticipation already, so what better place than to pop the question.  Some venues will even allow the proposal to be announced overhead or written on the scoreboard.  Concerts are another popular place to propose to your man.  Take him out for a nice dinner and present him with the tickets to his favorite band.  A little VIP action can get the band involved with a congratulatory speech once he’s accepted the proposal.

• Let it flow from the heart

You can’t go wrong when you ask from the heart.  Staring attentively into his eyes and letting the words flow from your heart will be the most meaningful expression of your love.  Don’t forget to go all out in destroying convention by getting down on one knee and letting him know how serious you are.

Be expressive in letting him know how much he means to you and how you cannot go through life without him by your side.  As you speak, grab his hand and allow your passion for him to consume you.  The confidence and zeal you express will gladly be received.